Friday, January 11, 2008

换Maid也是一种压力!

最近,压力好大!发生了好多事,令我心情起起浮浮的!
搞到自己的胸口感觉好象闷闷的,呼吸有点困难,脾气又不好,头又痛!
不得已,星期一,只好特地到家庭医生那儿去问诊,担心自己有心脏的问题......

经过Dr Ajith的检查后,便问我最近是不是压力太大了?
周围发生了什么事,生活有什么变化之类的?
我告诉他说:
1) 朋友过世了
2) 女佣回去印尼结婚,不回来了
3) 全家要重新适应新女佣,不知新女佣好不好,真的很不放心
4) 孩子不要新女佣,整天闹,整天只要粘住我. 晚上也要我抱着他才肯睡.
5) 睡眠不足,白天又要工作,搞到好疲倦
6) 嘉宾Bryan 老师又因为"某某原因",说不能再上我的节目
7) 嘉宾董莉也要回中国两个月,到三月才回来
8) 这时,老公又要出国公干几天.........

Aiyoh.....这么多事同时发生,医生说难怪我这么Stress!!这么烦!
再加上我又是这么多人同时离开,生活会有很大的变化,
所以一定要经过一段Grief Period.

他要我一定要放轻松,要我拿两天病假休息,不然两个星期内,一定会病倒的!
可是,这整个星期,电台人手不足,我觉得我还是得来上班.......
而且我有好多资讯要和听众分享,要教大家新年糕饼和年菜.....
说什么, 还是要来.......
只好答应医生会尽量放松心情,避免操劳!


旧女佣叫Ah Gu.
看得出她也是很舍不得离开.....
毕竟在我们家也有两年了,我们又对她很好.
曾经她犯了一个大错,我们还原谅她,她很感激.从此,更发愤图强,把工作做得更好!
她最舍不得的,我想,就是离开我的儿子吧!
所以,当她离境时,她哭了!

反而我的儿子,对她不理不采,可能是生气Ah Gu离开他吧!
回家后,问儿子: "Where is Ah Gu?"
他说: "No more Ah Gu."

原来他一直很明白这整段离别的过程........
就如黄教授,董莉和一位听众所说的,
一定要预备孩子女佣要离开了,也要带孩子到机场送机,让他了解离别的过程,感受离别的滋味.
这对他的成长是很好的!
这样, 当他以后长大后,就会很容易而且很成熟地接受离别,不会那么想不开!

新的Maid叫Ah Na.
她还挺会哄孩子,跟孩子玩的.
虽然,前几天,孩子蛮抗拒她的,可是现在,已可以接受她了!
Ah Na可能对所要做的家务事还是很生疏,所以,不懂得自动自发,只会守在孩子身边.

也或许她不喜欢做家务,正在"哥-Eng"!.....
hmm......所以要给多点时间,继续观察,才能下定论.......

不过, 今天,心情轻松多了!
因为孩子开始接受女佣了, 新嘉宾的安排也解决了, 老公昨晚从美国回来了!
Sigh!.....终于可以松一口气了!

周末到了!
祝福各位:周末愉快了! :)

12 comments:

Jo Ann said...

Hi Fen Ying
Aiyo, you were so stressed this week. Glad you are feeling better now and things are fitting in nicely. Have a nice weekend.

Heard from your programme that you are you going on leave but cannot remember when. Was it next week or the week after next ? Will miss your voice on air when you are on leave.

Flying fish said...

Hi Violet,

This is really grief period.

So many happenings going on unexpectedly.

Well, maybe just need to accept life is such.

Take a good break in 2 weeks time and relaxed. Since Pacific is comfortable with the new Ah Na, guess everything shall fall in place liao.

Try to take life easy ok...

Take care.

Jenny Kuek

shu fen said...

hi fen ying,
this morning heard ur voice dun see to be good,still wanna anything happen?after reading ur blog understand what happen.days is going on,things keep coming everydays.as me 2 yrs ago i face a big problem,though i had settled,who know today things back again,i break down again.i keep tell myself,things will never stop,i have to learn how to let go,if not one of the day i sure gone.dear friend,we have to learn to take life easy.(i know easy to said hard to do)

you take care,always support you,
shu fen

nonex said...

what is 哥-Eng ? o.O

Tammy

Anonymous said...

can I have your e-mail add?

sweetie mummy said...

Hi Violet,

It's surely a headache as 2 years ago, my previous maid went home after 6 years with me. I had changed 5 maids in between till I have to stay at home for 1 mths to be MAMA myself.

Now, again I'm in the same situation as u, you already have a maid, things will be better now. But I'm still waiting for her to come. I'm the MAID now again for past 3 weeks.

U take care. Remember u have all of us to support u.

Sweetie mummy

MRS TAN said...

Hi Violet,

I send my gal to skool, she only 2 yrs old at playgroup at e first three days she ok but aft that she started to cry till now crying.

How to comfort her? She told me she dun want to go to school mummy teaches will do she refused go in the class. i try all the way out to comfort but still e same need some professional thks for ur help

yng2929 said...

Dear Violet,

Be strong, believe in yourself that you can get through all these!

All the best, you can certainly handle the obstacles very well!

Regards,

Ms. Teo

Anonymous said...

Hi Violet,


My girl is now in Pr 1, her student care teacher said that she is very active in Enrichment Centre, at home as well. She can't even sit down and do her work till finished. She will walk here and there, scold her and cane her, she is still the same. I don't know how to make her not to be so active. Can Prof. Huang help me.

Many thanks,
Headache Mummy

Anonymous said...

Dear Violet
I can fully understand how you are feeling as I have also just gotten a new maid and it is really tough to have to teach her everything again. Besides, I was also travelling overseas for work. So it was tough and I feel really stressed too.

Please take care and hope your new maid works out fine.

Best regards, Kathleen

Anonymous said...

all d happen not so serius la....y u wana stress wo??face d problem bravely ya!u can d violet....

susan_ng_sg said...

Hi, Violet;
Aiyoyo....now then got time to see your post. But, glad to see that your Pacific is ok now. What...Ah Gu went back liao??? Well, hope your new maid can take care of the house chores now.
In the meanwhile, do Take Care of yourself.

Keep in touch!

Regards,
Susan Ng & Roy Tan.
28/02/2008